The Thermodynamics of Human Bond !

It was another such fine day and I was suffering from "chemistry-sickness" just like "home-sickness". I am still not sure whether to describe the feeling as "chemistry sicknes" or "sickness of management". Suddenly this idea hit upon my head whether Thermodynamics can really help us in understanding "Bonding" between human beings as in chemical molecules. A structured analysis, if at all, will go a long way in re framing our lives for a healthy relationship.

Free Energy

A + B-------> AB

Well the above are two persons A and B who come together and bond with themselves just like two atoms come together to form a molecule.For starters, plz be informed that in thermodynamics there is a comcept called Free Energy denoted by G. Higher the free energy of an atom, the more restless it is. So it tends to form a bond and stabilize itself. Similarly if a molecule is having high free energy, either it makes a bond with another atom, or breaks apart. So is the human relationship. If we have lot of accumulated energy within us, we do two things------ hook ourself up with someone and try to get the energy out by showering our emotions on the person, or break away from an existing relationship, to beat the stress. Make or break !

Activation Energy

Secondly there is a concept called activation energy. A molecule just does not form with two atoms coming together. They have to be excited to an energy level, i.e. raise the free energy so that they can react or bond. So is the human being. One has to be soft and sensitive for once energy level to be raised. One has to feel for people and here the concept of good parenting comes. Cold human beings, like cold atoms are given special treatment by circumstances to break their coldness and increse their energy. Too much stability is bad for it makes a dynamic process a static waste. For that reason Swami has said, "Open your heart to me, or I will break it open"! Now that is his way of asking us to raise our activation energy!

Here again there is a catch.

Time taken to make a bond = Time taken to break a bond ! [Newton's 3rd law modified !]. So if you take more time to make a bond, lest be assured it is going to be stable one. Hence love marraiges are supposed to be stable. [at least theoritically]People tend to know each other over time, understand likes and dislikes before bonding for life.

Entropy

But love marraiges are more fanciful in outside appearance. Statistically they give a gloomy picture. You may ask what variable am I using to define success or faluire of love marraige. I am using only one---divorce. Statistically 45% of love marraiges in India are going for a divorce. Less than 50% you may say..but very bad for a country like India with its values and traditions. New Delhi is leading the pack [TOI]. And the growth rate is alarmingly rising at 10% per annum. Well we wont go into that..we will talk of only the thermodynamics part of it. Why do love marraiges break or in general why do friendships break?The answer lies in Entropy.

What is that now? It is the measure of disorderliness in a system. In lay mans language, systems always tends to go for disorderliness. In a way better, for disorder thinking leads to serendipitous inventions and discoveries . When we enter into relationships, we tend to become a bit structured in our approach. We tend to skip doing a number of things, for we do not want to hurt our friend or partner. Lot of such sacrifices, go against the law of entropy. it reduces our freedom and so our disorderliness. Stress builds up and one fine day we break all these showing our disorderly behaviour at its premium ! Something called volcano effect. So what is the solution? "Be yourself"--thats all. if the other person loves you or likes you, he or she must accept you as you are.Even spirituality advocates freedom ! In spirituality the degree of freedom is highest, no boundaries and no bonds. You are disorderly at your premium. So you dont care for body, nor your existence. That is true renunciation..to be disorder at the highest level !

Enthalpy

Discusssion wont be complete without talking on Enthalpy or heat released by the system. For getting something, you need to sacrifice something, right? Enthalpy is the heat realeased by the system when two atoms bond. When two human beings come together, some heat has to be released by warmth, love and mutual affection and care for each other. Or else the relationlishp wont last.

So to sum up

1- For friendship you require free energy and not a cold person.

2- Free energy is influenced by activation energy.

3- Activation energy is dependant on childhood. Parents plz make your child sensitive. But dont over do it, for then he reacts to everything and a reactive compound is dangerous. Apart from losing its identity it harms others.

4- Get into a relationship but dont become a lot structured. Dont let your freedom be affected.

5- Show some genuine love for your partner. Strike a perfect trade-off between entropy and enthalpy

Who said Science and Spirituality are poles apart..Rather Science is a way to understand the Spirit behind the process and things ! Wishing all a happy relationship......!!